Nigerian actress, Toyin Abraham takes to Instagram to shed light on “friendship’ situations.
Toyin Abraham claims that we all have called our friends bad at one point or the other, and for that reason, we want to do away with friendships.
But to be honest, we have all been bad friends at one point in time.
Nevertheless, Toyin advised her fans to do better rather than point accusing fingers at all times.
“You complain that friends are bad and so you don’t want to have friends. I complain that friends are bad and so, I’d rather do without them. But honestly, who are these bad friends that make us all want to do away with friendships if not us all? Ṣé ẹ fẹ́ gbọ́ òótọ́, most of the time we are the bad friends we all complain about.
All of us are guilty in one way or other. We’ve been bad friends to somebody at one point or the other.
So, if we avoid, cancel or run away from everyone who has offended us at one point or the other, what do we do with ourselves?
I think it is easier to point out other people’s flaws than it is to accept that we are all flawed humans in some way.
And so, when we expect perfection from one another, we ruin the beauty of friendships. Because ẹ wò ó, ká má parọ́, we all have our good and bad sides and it is never realistic to think that we can experience people without their flaws.
So, rather than avoiding one another, rubbishing one another, exposing our weaknesses, and publicizing our offenses, hoping it would create the balance and stability we desire in our friendships and shield us from being hurt by “people”, let us hold one another with grace and compassion instead.
It is only then that it becomes possible to lovingly hold one another accountable and help each other grow into our best selves! Igi kan kò lè dá igbó ṣe, ká fi ọwọ́ w’ẹwọ́ ni ọwọ́ fí ń mọ́.”
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